Thank you for the review.  I had to reread chapter nine to figure out what you were referring to, so I hope I understood correctly. I assume you were talking about Harry not getting angry with Remus after Remus apologized for not telling Harry about Snape and Lily. I think we have to remember that Harry had just gone through a terrible emotional ordeal and he was in no shape to argue further.  And the fact is, Remus does have a good point.  What was he supposed to say about Lily and Snape, especially when it was not his story to tell?  Remus didn't know that Snape and Lily were married.  He did know that James and Lily had married for something like protection for Lily and yes, he knows that Lily loves Snape, but I think too that Remus, given that he seems the kind of man who just wants everything to work out (and the fact that supposedly Lily and James had been close enough to produce a baby), he believed that Lily loved James as well.  And the bottom line is that Remus thought James was Harry's father, not Snape.  If he had known, and he still didn't tell Harr, then yes his actions would have been indefensible, but as it is, I don't believe they are.  Remember too that once Harry thought Remus had known more than he actually did, Harry was quite a bit more angry.  Same goes for Dumbledore, if he fact does not know Lily lied to Snape. 

 As to Harry having no backbone, I actually think Harry did quite well for himself as he did flatly refuse to resume Occlumency with Snape.  He even went so far as the turn his back on both Remus and Dumbledore and walk out.  He was not inclined to defy McGonagall the next night but he went to Dumbledore's office fully intending to refuse again.  And, in all actuality, Dumbledore could not have insisted as you are right...it would be completely wrong of all of them.  And, you are right, Remus has no say in Harry's life but if you you were referring to Remus' telling Harry not to defy the Headmaster, I think that is simply Professor Lupin telling Harry not to be impertinent, much as McGonagall did later. And, yes Harry is nearing adulthood but he is not an adult and I think it is perfectly acceptable for the adults in his life to expect respect from him, even when Harry is too stubborn and angry to give it.  

I do appreciate your sentiments and thank you for giving me something to think about.  Hopefully, I explained myself well enough.  Hope you keep enjoying the story!